Finding Alternative Thoughts

  • Mental Filter: Am I only noticing the bad stuff? Am I filtering out the positives?
  • Mind Reading: Am I assuming I know what others are thinking? What’s the evidence? Are those are my own thoughts, not theirs?
  • Prediction: Am I thinking that I can predict the future? How likely is it that that might really happen? Am I predicting the worst-case scenario?
  • Compare and Despair: Am I comparing myself to other people? Am I comparing my “bloopers” to their “highlight reel”?
  • Critical Self : Would most people who really know me say that about me? Is this something that I am totally responsible for? Would I say these things to a friend in the same situation?
  • Shoulds and Musnts: Am I putting more pressure on myself, setting up expectations of myself that are almost impossible? What would be more realistic?
  • Judgments: I’m making an evaluation about the situation or person. It’s how I make sense of the world, but that doesn’t mean my judgments are always right or helpful. Is there another perspective?
  • Emotional Reasoning: Just because it feels bad, doesn’t necessary mean it is bad. My feelings are just a reaction to my thoughts – and thoughts are just automatic brain reflexes.
  • Mountains and Molehills: Am I exaggerating the good aspects of others, and putting myself down? Am I exaggerating the negative and minimizing the positives? What’s the bigger picture?
  • Catastrophizing: OK, thinking that the worst possible thing will definitely happen isn’t really helpful right now. What’s most likely to happen?
  • Black and White Thinking: Things aren’t either totally white or totally black – there are shades of grey. Where is this on the spectrum?
  • Memories: This is just a reminder of the past. That was then, and this is now. Even though this memory makes me feel upset, it’s not actually happening again right now.
  • (adapted from www.dbtselfhelp.com/FindingAlternativeThoughts.pdf)


shattyice:

chimchimchurro-o:

battleroyalewith-cheese:

Why don’t dogs get to see the world too?

This dog is literally smiling.

Oh my god



i guess i recorded an ice bucket challenge today after i got my wisdom teeth out??



sniffing:

dog trying to save fish



sluttymistletoe:

cringing:

is no one going to talk about how miranda has been replaced with a random middle aged woman

if you knew anything about lizzie mcguire you would know that miranda is livin it up in Mexico City while Lizzie has an awesome adventure with Paolo and Isabella, while trying to avoid the evil wrath of Ms Ungermeyer, who is definitely not some “random middle aged woman”
thanks

sluttymistletoe:

cringing:

is no one going to talk about how miranda has been replaced with a random middle aged woman

if you knew anything about lizzie mcguire you would know that miranda is livin it up in Mexico City while Lizzie has an awesome adventure with Paolo and Isabella, while trying to avoid the evil wrath of Ms Ungermeyer, who is definitely not some “random middle aged woman”

thanks



upgraders:

upgraders:

that feeling you get when you’re angry

anger



A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.
Dave Barry (via timmysenpai)


deerbabystyles:

unfortunately, as you may already know, darren criss.